“The Devil’s in the Details”

Long into May and even into June, there was the clatter of stove lids as another fire was laid and coaxed to life in the cook stove to chase the persistent chill from hearth and home. The lilacs, their buds shut tight, waited and waited for the warmth and light of the sun to unfurl their flowers and release their heady fragrance. My farmer husband dumped the rain gauge yet again and wondered aloud how a crop could grow when a fire was needed in the stove eight months of the year. Driving past a field where the tender shoots of corn were poking through the ground, he thought they too must be asking what they’re doing out there in the cold (an aside – In these musings, I’m never quite sure what to call the guy I’m married to … husband? – seems too formal, hubby?- too informal and cutesy, Farmer Fred? – too grade-one reader ish, my man? – too country song ish. I’ve heard of wives being called “my bride”, and I kinda liked that, so I tried the reverse and used “my groom”. That didn’t work for me either. My sister suggested “lover boy”. Maybe if I explore a different genre in writing!).

This last while, I’ve been mulling and musing on a story that I read (and have read countless times before) about two sisters (let’s call them Maggie and Molly). There is little detail given about them and their home though somewhere we hear mention about a brother (let’s call him Larry) who has his own tale to tell. Maggie and Molly were friends with an itinerant teacher (let’s call him Jack) who went from village to village, presenting to all who came to hear, ideas and ways of living that were counter-cultural to the time (and, indeed, remain counter-cultural in this time). So, Jack and his motley entourage, folks who worked in trades of all sorts, arrive at Maggie and Molly’s home. Maggie, full of vim and vigour, welcomes them inside. Everyone gets settled in, and conversation flows with Jack offering his unique perspective on things. Molly has found a spot on the floor and is drinking in his words. Maggie is bustling about getting a meal prepared and ready to serve. When she sees her sister Molly lounging about, she asks Jack if he doesn’t care that her sister has left her to do all the work herself. “Tell her then to help me, ” she implores him. Jack replies, “Maggie, Maggie, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Molly has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.”

Ouch.

Jack always gave voice to the underdog, but I wonder if he unwittingly created a new underdog with these words. As one who broke stereotypes, I wonder why Jack didn’t offer to get up and help. This was one small exchange between friends, one that they probably never suspected would be written down and read and analyzed by people in years to come. From this ordinary, everyday exchange, Maggie has been typecast as a task master sister, a person concerned and distracted by details, the kind of person not to be. But maybe there’s another way to read this story. Maybe it need not be an either/or story. Maybe it isn’t simply a story of contrasts. Maybe there’s more here than meets the eye.

And so I mulled. And found it noteworthy that it was Maggie who welcomed the crew into her and Molly’s home. She opened wide her door and welcomed Jack and his ragtag bunch into her space. Her request to Jack is prefaced with the words, “Don’t you care”, and in those words I heard for the first time, a plea of sorts. Like the rest of us, Maggie wanted to be seen, noticed, and appreciated. Maybe she has spent her life caring for others and needed to know that someone also cared for her. But what broke open to an entirely new aspect of this story for me was in Jack’s words, “Molly has chosen”. In a new way, I saw that the unspoken invitation to join in the conversation was extended to Maggie as well as her sister, but Maggie chose differently. There wasn’t an assumption on anyone else’s part that Maggie stay with the tasks at hand. Maggie too was invited to sit with the company. As much as Molly chose to be where she was, so did Maggie. It seems that Maggie owned an expectation of herself that she needed to do all the work, and holding that expectation robbed her of life on many levels. Maggie felt compelled by tasks, but she too was welcome to come sit and be a part of the circle (though, interestingly, had she done so, we most likely would not have this story in the repertoire of teachings). The tasks and details in and of themselves were not pernicious; it was the distracted worry that was.

This photo was taken by my 3-year-old grandie. Note his toes in the foreground. The lens on my camera was almost too heavy for him, and I had to crouch to get myself into the viewfinder. 🙂

I continue to ponder where in my everyday, ordinary happenings lie my unspoken invitations, my freedom of choice to respond with wholehearted presence? Where am I holding assumptions? And then responding with distracted worry? And frankly, sometimes being absorbed in tasks of preparation and daily living is what frees me up to sit with the likes of Jack. But always, always, there is invitation folded into ordinary, everyday life that can so easily be snuffed out by distraction and fuss. “The devil’s in the detail”, or so they say, but I suspect the divine can also be found there.

The aroma of fresh-baked bread lingered in the room as Maggie watched her friends talking and laughing while they savoured the last morsels from her homemade meal. The sting in Jack’s words still smarted as she saw Molly engrossed in conversation. Tucking a loose strand of hair back behind her ear, she turned to leave, and out of the corner of her eye saw Jack raise his goblet high with that merry twinkle that was never far from his eye. “To Maggie”, he called out, with a wide and disarming grin, “for her kind and generous welcome and for making the most amazing supper this side of heaven!”

“To Maggie!”, a chorus of voices rang out and cups clanked.

Warmth flooded her heart and her cheeks as she hurried back to the safety and comfort of the household chores. Footsteps followed her, and she saw Jack grab an apron from the peg on the wall and tie it around his waist. Soon easy conversation and the occasional chuckle could be heard at that age-old meeting place of dirty dishes and sudsy water. Because sometimes the invitor pursues the invitee.

Published by Judy

On the edge of Waterloo county, resting sedately on knoll, is an old stone house looking out towards the Grand River. This stone house and farm has been in my husband's family for years. We have been graced to call this place home for the last thirty years. Our best crop has been our four children. After years of immersing myself in raising and educating our family, the proverbial nest has slowing been emptying, opening up space for me to fill with other pursuits. Both writing and photography have been knit into my everyday living since I was very young. Sharing them is both a bit of a dream and a nightmare. But living small and in fear shrivels up a life. My thoughts are musings on God, aging, family, and simply living. My shelves are lined with books, my baskets are brimming with skeins of yarn, my closet shelves are stacked with apparel, my cellar shelves are chock full of home canning - all testaments to my inclinations. Our journeys are not solitary affairs. As I share bits of my journey with you, I hope you will be enticed to look more closely, listen more attentively, and live with abandon. May God's peace rest on your journey. Judy Mae Naomi

4 thoughts on ““The Devil’s in the Details””

  1. Robyn Serez says:

    So needed today Judy! And so thankful you added the “rest of the story” in your final paragraph. It really spoke to me. Thank you😊

    1. Judy says:

      Thanks Robyn, and I’m glad you like it. Take good care.
      Judy

  2. Phyllis Montgomery says:

    Love this! Here’s to Maggie, without whom they’d have been a hungry bunch. The ATTITUDE in serving is the key, and the food tastes better when it’s served in loving humility, from a generous and gentle heart. Beautiful pictures…..again! 💕Phyllis

  3. Judy says:

    Thanks Phyllis! I agree, it is the attitude in serving that makes all the difference. And it really does flavour more than the food! I hope you and your groom are well! 😉
    Judy

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